Do your self-care promises fizzle out before they take root?
Explore herbal self-care support to help you build calm, sustainable routines.
Struggling to have sustainable self-care and calm is not because you lack willpower or aren’t wise enough to set yourself up!
Self-care can be challenging and doesn’t always come naturally. Feeling overwhelmed is common, especially for those who lacked clear boundaries in their upbringing. However, by gradually incorporating various self-care practices into your routine, you can create greater harmony and ease in your life.
I offer support through my blog, newsletter, and a variety of care-focused offerings—including a digital course, herbalism consultations, and the Rest of Life mentorship program (a 4-month online journey to deepen your relationship with sustainable self-care).
Creating a sustainable self-care practice can feel especially hard if you’ve experienced trauma, a difficult past or are recovering from burnout, grief, or overwhelm.
Learning to recognize and fulfill your unique self-care needs is a process, and you don’t have to figure it out all by yourself. This is my wheelhouse.
I’ll support you to get clearer faster to be your calmest, best-rested, and restored self.
I specialize in guiding sensitive, compassionate individuals to better understand the interplay between body and mind wellness to create Personal Care plans that actually create more ease, better rest, and calmness.
With plant-based remedies for stress and anxiety, combined with a personalized self-care plan, you’ll prioritize your well-being and break the cycle of neglecting your needs, ensuring a healthier, more balanced life!
About Quai
Hi there, I’m Quai, a licensed psychotherapist (LCSW) and clinical herbalist specializing in stress relief, harm reduction, and trauma-informed, queer-affirming Personal Care.
Through 20+ years of personal and professional experience, I’ve supported people navigating burnout, anxiety, recovery, and emotional overload to build sustainable rituals of rest, nourishment, and self-compassion, using plant remedies, somatic wisdom, and relational care. I’ve developed a passion for supporting others in finding their unique self-care approaches.
Combining expert knowledge, real-life experiences, and a touch of humor, I’ll help you uncover questions and possibilities you never knew existed. From plant remedies and trauma work to harm-reduction strategies, we’ll tackle it all together.
With warmth and empathy, I’ll create a safe, engaging space for you to share openly and explore plant remedies for anxiety and stress. Let’s develop personalized self-care plans that transcend the norm, ensuring they’re sustainable, and enjoyable. And we might just discover the parts of you that need some extra love along the way.
Are you ready to reclaim your personal care potential? Let’s embark on this transformative journey together!
My values
I believe the most peaceful and fulfilling life comes from learning from our lived experiences and being mindful of the lived experiences that are different from ours. I value joy, laughter, pleasure, honesty, and humbleness. Doing as little harm as possible and finding gentleness to address my missteps is something I try to share with others when I hold space for them.
Since I work with herbalism, I’m mindful of how I source herbs, essential oils, and herbal remedies. Not only do I want good quality, but I also want to be responsible by working with ethically harvested plants. This entails both the human labor involved as well as the sustainability of the plants. As much as possible, I want to support small businesses, herbalists of color, queer herbal remedy makers, and women driven entities.
Additionally my work supports holistic healing for sensitive people and harm reduction herbalism for those seeking plant remedies as part of their journey with excess alcohol use or sobriety support.
My Intentions Are
- To provide information, education, nervous system support and assistance as a guide and mentor on ways of getting the best possible restoration, while also learning with my participants along the way. To be on a journey together.
- To approach this work with an intersectional awareness. This means that although I am producing content for specific people, who tend to be curious and sensitive souls, I am also developing content that aims to not alienate based on identity and experience such as gender, culture, ability, body differences, and spirituality. And where it’s possible, I’ll try to name ways of making resources as affordable as possible. That last one is tricky in terms of honoring the labor behind herbal items and ensuring folks who are producing content are compensated for their work. Much of that work is more involved than is often understood.
- To grow this business into something that can support other small businesses, as well as herbalists of color, queer herbal remedy makers, and women driven entities.
My sources of learning
Since I believe someone’s training isn’t the entirety of what influences their work, I wanted my bio section to help people know where I’m coming from to hopefully give a better sense of what it might be like to work with me.
Before my formal, school, and program based education, I was a student of observation. My learning goes back to when I was a wee one. I was the kid who quietly watched what happened around me and somehow I learned that when people slow down, like waaay s l o w d o w n things always get clearer. I learned that clarity, as opposed to confusion and stress meant better sleep.
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– It is that influence that drives me to address emotional well-being with physical comfort. They go hand in hand. –
I have gravitated toward experiential learning, self study, peer support and receiving mentorship. Formal and more structured programs enhance my ongoing learning, but my most profound learning has come from relationships with peers, mentors, and those for whom I hold space. They all teach me. I received my master’s degree in social work from Hunter College, and have completed post-graduate training in working with the body and nervous system for emotional difficulties like anxiety, stress, and trauma. Some of that training has been in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Sensorimotor training, and psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. These are experiential trainings that taught me that staying in a moment to moment basis offers the deepest healing. I have over 600 hours of herbalism and aromatherapy training. I completed a year at ArborVitae School of Traditional Herbalism, which provided valuable knowledge for me to learn how to learn about working with herbs. Prior to that, I did a nine month course called Interprofessional Program in Integrative Healthcare through Mount Sinai. This helped me understand how health care providers see modalities, such as herbalism and to discover where a gap is between home, self care and medical services. I also trained in the NADA protocol. The NADA protocol is a non-verbal adjunctive therapy for emotional trauma, mental health, and addiction that calms the nervous system. That protocol uses the placement of acupuncture needles (or ear seeds that are held with adhesive to points) on the ears. Working with NADA, herbs, somatics and aromatherapy has taught me about how healing happens beyond narratives.
Additionally, I regularly attend herbalism workshops and participate in herbal mentorship.